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Step 10 – Common Mistakes With Creating Connection

Step 10 - Common Mistakes with Creating Connection

Today you’ll be practicing the same exercise you did yesterday, Creating Connection Through Change In Focus. There’s a video with a different horse, which gives a different perspective on the exercise. Additionally, there’s a video on common mistakes made during the exercise.  Don’t skip watching these videos because you don’t have any perceived problems.  Having this information is important so you know what to do if a problem arises. Once you watch both of these videos, go out and try the exercise again.  

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Hi Warwick and Robin. Hello from north-central British Columbia, Canada! I first discovered you on You Tube about 18 months ago, looking for help with trailer loading (a long story for another day). While I learned a lot from the videos, I felt that I was missing important elements and so recently signed up. I am really enjoying the Jump Start course.
I am an adult amateur(55++ crowd!) dressage rider; also do a bit of hacking and some jumping (small stuff). I have a 17 yr old Oldenburg mare that I got as a 4 yr old. She is lovely, very sensitive, and fun to ride. However, she can still be explosive and wound right up (then I get more stressed, etc.). A few months ago, I moved her to a friend’s horse farm. She’s still getting used to the indoor arena and can be quite anxious. Learning to watch for the subtle signs of her rising stress and discomfort, while also letting go of my own stress and remaining calmer, has been a game changer.
Two days ago, I was trying the flag exercise ‘Creating Connection Through Change in Focus’, after watching the videos. She was like the horse in the 2023 Outback Spectacular – running constantly, totally wired and distracted. I could get an ear, eye and sometimes her head but she never came up to me. I stopped after 30 mins; came home and watched the videos again.
Today was entirely different in a good way. I corrected my mistakes: stayed further away; asked less often; made sure to wait 30-60 seconds between asks; waited till she turned her head, then stopped and pivoted. She was much calmer and came up to say hello three times. The shorter session was more productive and positive – yay!
After in the tie-up area, she was calmer although a bit antsy to leave. So I tried a breathing technique. After two or three breaths, she turned her head to me as though to say ‘what are you doing?’; then turned back and had a lick and a chew. That’s me with a big smile leading her back to her paddock.
Looking forward to the rest of the course, especially ‘Standing Still and Present’. Thank you!

Warwick Schiller avatar Warwick Schiller (Administrator) December 8, 2023 at 10:58 am

Great work

I signed up for this training as I embark on working with a new horse, a QH/saddlebred mix that I just adopted. After 3 sessions, where ears and head would acknowledge me, today after less than 30 minutes, he came up to me, greeted me with his muzzle, then followed me around.
I decided to try this with my recently adopted donkey (small standard). She wants nothing to do with me in the stall and is difficult to catch in the outdoor dry lot where she is in charge of my two gelding horses all day. She does have redeeming qualities, safe for children to pet, leads pretty well, picks up feet willingly, and loves to be groomed, once she decides it fits into her schedule. (lol)
Well, in the arena today, I let her off lead and did this exercise. The ear movements are so much easier to see on a donkey! I got her ears a lot, but it took time to get an eye. She was fixated on the stall area at one end of the arena. After about 20 minutes I got a foot. Shortly after that, she started to walk toward me. She came halfway, then turned back. After several of these attempts, she came right to me and leaned her head into my side. After this, I went and got her halter and lead, but when I was approaching her, she backed off, far away. I repeated the exercise with the lead line as my “flag”. She eventually (less than 10 min) inched her way to me and stood still. I was able to put on her halter and she did not try to escape. This was shocking to me, as this is usually a battle.
I want to assure you and anyone else that wants to know, this worked for my donkey today! I’ll see how this plays out as we move on in training!

Warwick Schiller avatar Warwick Schiller (Administrator) December 12, 2023 at 12:01 pm

Great work.

Follow Up. When I went out to catch my donkey this afternoon, she was at the far end of my 1.7 acre pasture. I went into the gate, stood still, and she ran all the way to me, veered sharply away when she got close. I never moved a muscle. She then walked gingerly toward me and stood still right in front of me. I again was able to halter her with NO avoidance moves on her part. No treats, no grain bucket shaking, nothing! I am still shocked. Perhaps she never felt safe or “seen” by me before. I could cry.

Warwick Schiller avatar Warwick Schiller (Administrator) December 12, 2023 at 12:02 pm

More great work.

“I am now 10 days into a 30-day Jumpstart journey. There are two reasons for this: first, to ‘restart’ one of my horses who is slow under saddle (actually slow in almost everything). I am very curious to see where this will lead us; learning a lot is certain. The other reason is that I am planning to organize workshops soon for riders with riding anxiety, and I am confident (actually quite sure) that I will find useful insights in Warwick Schiller’s material that can help in reducing riding anxiety. I managed to do it myself three years ago, also with the help of the video library, which is now much easier to navigate. Thanks for that. It has been life-changing for me, the journey I took with my other horse through the videos, and we are still on that journey. It has been life-changing not only in terms of horsemanship but also in my personal and work life. From staying a lot in my comfort zone to continuously stepping out of it. And that has brought me a lot. Thanks.”

PS. and I am also very curious what to learn this time with doing al lot of stuff ‘again’ from the beginning.

Warwick Schiller avatar Warwick Schiller (Administrator) January 7, 2024 at 1:48 pm

Good luck and enjoy the journey

Hey Warwick.
I am really new to horsemanship. I bought my little QH 2 years ago after 2 riding lessons on him as a really quiet safe kids horse. I spent a year riding him almost everyday. We’ve spent hours just relaxing in the paddock together. We had a great relationship, I could find him on the property and ride him to the tack shed with no tack before our rides. We learned together with no professional guidance. I leased him out for a year while I was overseas and have only had him back recently. I have done no work with him and have just been following your corse. Yesterday I had him in the arena. He already follows me around a lot so once he got bored of that I could start the exercise. After about 6 goes of noticing him notice me he got the turn around and would come to me. I finished the lesson on a win but the rain was pelting and i could tell he didnt like it so it may have been an unpleasent exercise for him. Today we tried the same. He followed me for one lap around the arena then went off to do his own thing. He started sprinting and bucking, kicking out. I just thought he was letting off some steam. Once he settled I would wave the flag. He’d notice me. Id turn. More often than not he’d walk up to me. When he’d stop following me we would do it again. One time though instead of walking to me he faced me head on sprinting, kicking out. I thought he’d settle and stop before getting to me but he didnt. It was too late to do anything and I froze assuming he was going to take me out. He side stepped just missing me. I have never been afraid of this horse but I was today. He slowed to a trot, then a walk and came directly back to me. I walked away and he followed me zig zagging around the arena for quite awhile. I settled down and got back to the training – 70% of the time he was following me around as I changed direction. When he wouldnt Id go back to getting his attention with the flag. Once I felt like he’d done a good job I walked, he followed back to the centre of the arena where I dropped the holter. As I got there he kicked out again and pointed his backside to me.

I do think he was being aggressive. I think maybe he was getting frustrated by the exercise? He will always push people that lead him if the are unsure what they are doing and has walked me into countless fences in our time so does have a tendency to be a little dominating sometimes. I don’t really know where to go from here.

Warwick Schiller avatar Warwick Schiller (Administrator) January 16, 2024 at 4:06 pm

I thik you may have been a bit too focused on the following you around. If they are running directly at you, you have a lot of draw, so I definately would not be walking and having him follow you

Today I spent about an hour, working on connection by change of focus. I was able to get ear and eye, she walked up to me twice, second time got a little spooked by the flag in the wind (I had it pointed to the ground but it was windy). She walked away several times, and I went back to getting an ear and an eye, a few times got a head turn. I then just sat in the field with her for a bit and left. Would this be considered success?

Warwick Schiller avatar Warwick Schiller (Administrator) January 20, 2024 at 11:02 pm

It was a success the first time you got the ear. Then all the rest were successes on top of that.

I am sorry for being dense, but I do not see a playlist under Creating Connection through Change of Focus. I am looking the video on How to be Effective, and you told me where to find it and it seems I am still looking in the wrong place. Could you possibly give me a link to it? Thank you!

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